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Wishes and Horses

Lots of talk is going on about the rich being the ones who can afford to have horses. Of course, horses make us rich (with love, experiences, joy, etc.) but I don’t think that’s what they are talking about!

My personal story is one of financial extremes and of finding ways to keep horses in my life experience no matter what. Only twice in my life did I have to give my horses to incredibly good homes because I was not going to be able to care for them properly. In those cases, I did what was right for my horses, period.

Now, at Dharmahorse, we are running on a “shoestring”, so to speak, and I find creative ways to support my horses’ Well Being. My feeling is that to give up the “newest/best” electronics and putter along successfully with my old laptop is no real sacrifice! And to get my clothes from Thrift Stores, books from Coas and barter lessons for hay just make for lots of adventures in the process. I don’t even want manicures (hey, I clean horses’ sheaths so fingernails need to be short), pedicures, hair styling or make up – although massages would be nice…


But our horses get massages because of how hard they work giving lessons (it isn’t easy to be ridden by several different people each week) and I buy good shoes because my feet work really hard!

It’s a matter of priorities. I teach because I want to share what I learn and be a light of compassion for horses. I can have several great horses in my family because they help work to cover expenses. We are a team with a purpose.

As we gather great people around our company with similar philosophies and priorities, I find that my own joy increases and the energy expands each day. I used to be tired and now I get inspired. I used to get scared and now I feel excited. We can all express these positives in our lives – we’ve come this far. We are still kickin’! If we faced the challenges of the past and came through intact, surely what we face today (and tomorrow) cannot be insurmountable.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

We don’t have to be “rich” to have horses but we become rich when we have them! To properly care for them, we must prioritize their wellbeing and often get creative!

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A Win – Win Situation

A “Win – Win” situation… I hear that often. It is a truly profound statement when it is used. Most times our society is equating winning with being higher, better, stronger, smarter than others who must, therefor, lose.

And it is dramatic when a rider is told to “show him who’s boss”; “you must win the battle with your horse”; etc.

Battle? If a battle ensues within a relationship with a horse, the human is 99% of the time the instigator. A battle can demoralize one of the parties and it invariably ends up being the horse.

So, this “Win – Win” situation sounds like the best way to approach relationships and dialog with horses… heck, with all beings! I have personally found my way there through decades of experience and relationships with Appaloosas. Oh, I have owned and schooled Arabians, Thoroughbreds, Warmbloods, Mules, Quarter Horses… you name it! But the time I have spent with Appaloosas has honed my skills as a proponent of “The Middle Way” and brought me to a place of thoughtful consideration of the other party in each relationship. Appaloosas have an acute sense of what is fair and the ability to know if you are honest and mean what you “say”. They will hold you to task. And I appreciate that.


If we seek that “Middle Way” of partnership with our horses (and family and coworkers and neighbors, etc.), with respect for the other’s feelings – knowing that there are always reasons for how we all respond to life – we will All Be Winners. No One has to lose!

I once was told that my ideas were too “simplistic”; that the way I lived was “idealistic”. How COOL! I will gladly fly the SIMPLE flag and hold myself to the idealistic standards of compassion and trust. If we all just cave in to the idea that struggle, brutality and force are the normal aspects of life and relationships… well, what sort of life and relationships will we experience?

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