“The whole idea of struggle brings you to a point of conflict, the antithesis of horsemanship.” If things seem to be going wrong in your training, first look to the possibility of confusion. The horse wants to please. It is his nature to yield and to avoid conflict. If he seems unwilling to comply with your wishes/requests/demands, consider the possibility that he is confused and does not understand your aids. First look to fixing yourself. Make your language clearer, your communication more basic. Go to a simpler task, a slower gait, a smaller jump, use a milder bit, remove force, and concentrate upon influence. If your hose is acting out of character, consider that he feels poorly or that something is hurting him. Check your equipment, his body, his hooves. Give your horse a chance to tell you why he is not cooperating before you decide to attack him.
Consider how often he is ridden. If you work him hard every day, be sure to vary your routine. Drilling him over and over with the same patterns of schooling will either bore him into quiet, dull submission or drive him to rebellion. Neither is appealing. If you can only get to him once a week, the excitement and newness of your contact with him many be overly stimulating. He may have trouble concentrating for the first hour you are together, so do not make any demands upon him in the beginning of your time together beyond simple safety. After the freshness has worn off, begin a schooling session that takes into account the time that has passed since your last contact. Much improvement can be had with a review of old skills, a lesson on new, logical movements, finishing with a session of easy, well-honed skills that allows the horse to feel successful.
This building of successes for both of you can eliminate the use of pain as a training tool. Equipment that inflicts pain is unnecessary if you take the time to school every small detail consistently from the most basic to the most complex. It is important that your horse feels successful and be rewarded for his cooperation. His desire to repeat the experience will be increased. If he feels that he can never please you or that he is never quite food enough, he will lose all desire to participate with you either under saddle or in the stable.